Ok I had the best time this weekend at a BBQ my friend J had! There was plenty of food and drinks, which is right down my alley!! (I sound so much like my momma with that)
There were a lot of people there, which I enjoyed because I am a talker and a people person. I talked to everybody! That's just what I do...We even persuaded the men to play Taboo, which is my favorite game! Now, that was super hilarious! I told them at the beginning that they would lose, but they didn't believe me. And guess what happened? They lost EVERY game!!! hahahahahaha! It got to be a little heated because all of us were very competitive. I hate to lose, so you know I wasn't about to give up my Taboo crown to a bunch of clueless men! They had to go down...and they did!
After we whooped their a** in Taboo, we started to have deep conversations, which I dreaded because I knew that we (as in us women) would get upset with the simple mindedness of the men. One of the guys asks for my opinion about his current relationship situation. He was wondering why girls go through the phones of their boyfriends...mainly because his girlfriend was doing the same to him. So, he then goes on to say that he likes pics of naked women, and that is what she found. His rationale was that she shouldn't be going through his phone because he bought her a truck and he pays her cell phone bill. See the simple minds??? I'm looking at him like he's crazy by now, because he's out of his mind if he thinks that is gonna fly with a woman and also because he is obviously a freakin pervert! It's not enough that he has a woman at his beck and call (because she is) he wants more...he wants to look at pics of naked women. WTF?? He then says, "It's the same as if you were to send me a pic and I keep it...I keep my pics." I ask him why he even gets to the point where he lets other women send him those type of pics if he is so into his girlfriend? We were all getting mad at this point, so we calm down on this topic. How stupid and selfish of him, huh?
All I have to say is, sometimes it saddens me how clueless men are about a woman's feelings. Some of them have no idea what it takes to keep a woman, and sadly, they don't care as long as their needs are fulfilled. They don't think that they won't prosper in life when negatively handling matters of the heart. Bless their little hearts...It can only end in tragedy...
Speaking of tragedy, that's what it would have been if I continued to talk to that loser of a man that I mentioned briefly in my last post...TRAGEDY! Thank you Lord that I use the sense you gave me, and will tell it like it is, instead of remaining in a bad situation. Please understand, when I say this guy is a loser, I am not exaggerating, I'm actually sugar coating it lol!
Showing posts with label relationships. Show all posts
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Wednesday, March 25, 2009
Wake up women!
I don't know why women think that if they end a relationship with a man, that life as they know it is over!
Why are we so drama??? Having a man does not define you! Honestly, just like you got that man, God will surely send you someone else. Now, don't get it twisted. I am not one of those chicks who say "I don't need a man" or "All men are dogs!" There is just something that women must do....We must love ourselves! Only then can we love a man and expect him to love us the way we need to be loved. This is sooo important to our success in life as a daugther, mother, wife, friend, co-worker...We must love ourselves.
The reason why we end up in some of the situations we do, is because the unconditional love for ourselves is not there. How can you expect a man to treat you right, when you can't even do the same for yourself. And I have been through it all. I was even in a relationship where I am certain I loved this guy more than I did myself. And yes, there is such thing of loving someone too much, because I don't know if you know this, but God is a jealous God. He does not want you putting someone else before him. That just won't work. And this is what I was doing...which resulted in God taking that person away from me. I had to realize that and since I have, I focus on loving myself. My relationships are not perfect, but I love myself. All of the rest will fall in place.
I look at the Rhianna and Chris Brown situation. I don't care what went down, whether he hit her first or if she punched him first, she is with him after all that hell, because she does not love herself enough. How is it we get this way? What has happened to us that keeps the love for ourselves at bay? Is is because we as women are nurturing and care for others, sort of like the motherly instinct, which results in us leaving ourselves out? I don't know but I am sure that whatever it is, the cycle must end.
I want my future husband to see the way I love God and myself...which will then let him know firsthand the kind of love I am offering and expecting to receive in return from him.
1 Corinthians 13:4-7
4 Love is patient, love is kind and is not jealous; love does not brag and is not arrogant, 5 does not act unbecomingly; it does not seek its own, is not provoked, does not take into account a wrong suffered, 6 does not rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth; 7 bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.
Why are we so drama??? Having a man does not define you! Honestly, just like you got that man, God will surely send you someone else. Now, don't get it twisted. I am not one of those chicks who say "I don't need a man" or "All men are dogs!" There is just something that women must do....We must love ourselves! Only then can we love a man and expect him to love us the way we need to be loved. This is sooo important to our success in life as a daugther, mother, wife, friend, co-worker...We must love ourselves.
The reason why we end up in some of the situations we do, is because the unconditional love for ourselves is not there. How can you expect a man to treat you right, when you can't even do the same for yourself. And I have been through it all. I was even in a relationship where I am certain I loved this guy more than I did myself. And yes, there is such thing of loving someone too much, because I don't know if you know this, but God is a jealous God. He does not want you putting someone else before him. That just won't work. And this is what I was doing...which resulted in God taking that person away from me. I had to realize that and since I have, I focus on loving myself. My relationships are not perfect, but I love myself. All of the rest will fall in place.
I look at the Rhianna and Chris Brown situation. I don't care what went down, whether he hit her first or if she punched him first, she is with him after all that hell, because she does not love herself enough. How is it we get this way? What has happened to us that keeps the love for ourselves at bay? Is is because we as women are nurturing and care for others, sort of like the motherly instinct, which results in us leaving ourselves out? I don't know but I am sure that whatever it is, the cycle must end.
I want my future husband to see the way I love God and myself...which will then let him know firsthand the kind of love I am offering and expecting to receive in return from him.
1 Corinthians 13:4-7
4 Love is patient, love is kind and is not jealous; love does not brag and is not arrogant, 5 does not act unbecomingly; it does not seek its own, is not provoked, does not take into account a wrong suffered, 6 does not rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth; 7 bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.
Sunday, March 22, 2009
See No Evil
Haven't written in awhile...and it's not cause I don't care, I've just been super busy!!! I still have that peace that I mentioned last week. I've been feeling really good...still so thankful for the way things are going in my life.
I went out this weekend with friends and had a blast. One of my friends is really trying to hook me up with her husband's boss. He saw a pic of me from one of our nights out and he was really digging me she says. Only problem is, she has not seen him before. He said all this stuff to her husband. He's some kind of ranking officer in the Navy. Word is he really has his stuff together. Knows how to act, wants great things for his future and taking the necessary steps too. This is refreshing because those type of guys aren't plentiful...endangered species I say :-) He even wrote his number down on a piece of paper for me to call him. Maybe I will, maybe I won't. He seems to know just what he wants. Now, I'm sure he is a nice guy and all, but blind dates are not a way to go for me. She suggested they have a BBQ and we can see each other that way. This scenario will work better because it's not like we have to just talk to each other. There will be other folk around and we can talk only if we want. The plan is in the works for the BBQ sometime next month. We'll see how that goes! I'll be sure to blog about it lol!
So you may be wondering why I'm not a fan of blind dates...and the answer is because I had the most terrible experience years ago when I was in high school. All my life, people have tried to hook me up with guys they know, whether it be a friend, brother, cousin, etc. It seems that I'm the one they see who is perfect for the guy they know. This particular instance, a friend of mine called me with his friend on 3-way. (You remember being on 3-way back in the day was the thing!) So, my friend Mike had to hang up, but the guy he wanted me to talk to, Ray wanted to continue the conversation. He was nice and charming. He asked me to describe myself, and I did so honestly, because I thought that was the right thing to do. Oh but when the tables turned, he described himself in such a way that made him seem too good to be true...and believe me, he was. We met shortly after that and I was disgusted for 2 reasons. #1 he completely lied to me about the way he looked. #2 he looked awful! Not my type at all. Maybe if he was still cute even though he lied, I would have still talked to him, but he was not a cutie lol! I scolded my friend Mike for even considering hooking me up with such a creature, he laughed and said he didn't judge dudes. What a way to be accountable! So this is why blind dates are to be avoided! That was one time that scarred me for life. I wonder where that lying fool is now. He's probably still at it. Maybe one of those guys on myspace who post pics of others on their profile pretending that it's him :-) If you're reading this and that's what you do...shame on you! HAHAHAHA!
I went out this weekend with friends and had a blast. One of my friends is really trying to hook me up with her husband's boss. He saw a pic of me from one of our nights out and he was really digging me she says. Only problem is, she has not seen him before. He said all this stuff to her husband. He's some kind of ranking officer in the Navy. Word is he really has his stuff together. Knows how to act, wants great things for his future and taking the necessary steps too. This is refreshing because those type of guys aren't plentiful...endangered species I say :-) He even wrote his number down on a piece of paper for me to call him. Maybe I will, maybe I won't. He seems to know just what he wants. Now, I'm sure he is a nice guy and all, but blind dates are not a way to go for me. She suggested they have a BBQ and we can see each other that way. This scenario will work better because it's not like we have to just talk to each other. There will be other folk around and we can talk only if we want. The plan is in the works for the BBQ sometime next month. We'll see how that goes! I'll be sure to blog about it lol!
So you may be wondering why I'm not a fan of blind dates...and the answer is because I had the most terrible experience years ago when I was in high school. All my life, people have tried to hook me up with guys they know, whether it be a friend, brother, cousin, etc. It seems that I'm the one they see who is perfect for the guy they know. This particular instance, a friend of mine called me with his friend on 3-way. (You remember being on 3-way back in the day was the thing!) So, my friend Mike had to hang up, but the guy he wanted me to talk to, Ray wanted to continue the conversation. He was nice and charming. He asked me to describe myself, and I did so honestly, because I thought that was the right thing to do. Oh but when the tables turned, he described himself in such a way that made him seem too good to be true...and believe me, he was. We met shortly after that and I was disgusted for 2 reasons. #1 he completely lied to me about the way he looked. #2 he looked awful! Not my type at all. Maybe if he was still cute even though he lied, I would have still talked to him, but he was not a cutie lol! I scolded my friend Mike for even considering hooking me up with such a creature, he laughed and said he didn't judge dudes. What a way to be accountable! So this is why blind dates are to be avoided! That was one time that scarred me for life. I wonder where that lying fool is now. He's probably still at it. Maybe one of those guys on myspace who post pics of others on their profile pretending that it's him :-) If you're reading this and that's what you do...shame on you! HAHAHAHA!
Tuesday, March 10, 2009
ReAdInG iS fUnDaMeNtAl
You know us women like to read books about relationships. Two of my girls and I are reading Steve Harvey's new book together..."Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man". One of my girls came up with the idea to read then discuss. I've only read about 3 pages because I have been so busy...which is bad because one of my girls is almost finished! I'll get with it soon I hope.
Like I said, haven't read that many pages, so I really don't know if I will like the book or not. A friend of mine that read it said it was a little slow and drawn out like Steve Harvey is on his morning show, which falls in line with some reviews I've been reading. Others have loved the book, saying it provided real world advice for women. I hope that it turns out to be a good read, I'm pretty sure it will.
One thing I will be looking for in this book is validation to things I've already known for some time. In reality, once you've been through certain situations you kinda know how to handle certain people...in this case men. I've had some crazy situations with guys over the years...as I get older, it's less crazy because I have learned from my mistakes, as well as the mistakes of others when it comes to relationships. I'm actually pretty proud of myself in that area. There is always room for improvement, but I'm not necessarily looking to improve from reading this book. I believe that the greatest experience is getting together as friends and discussing our thoughts on points from the book. I am thankful that my friends have been in situations and have learned from them...it's just plain sorry to not show any growth over the years. How are you going to make it through life going thru the same crap all the time. There are actually people out there who are okay with this! Losers!
Now back to the book, I would have to say that while it is important to talk to women about relationships issues...I've gotten the greatest success talking to other men. My guy friends that I have are invaluable to me. These are not the guys I date. They are who I learn from. I talk to them about relationships...mines and theirs. There is one friend I've had for a long time that's like a brother to me. I know him like the back of my hand, and vice versa. We have those talks. And I guarantee you, there is info presented that cannot be learned in any book, talk show, online site etc. Besides that, the best way to learn is from experience. That is my thought. Anyway, I'm looking forward to reading the book and sharing my thoughts along the way. Maybe you should read it too! Let me know what you think...
Sunday, March 8, 2009
Don't you wish your girlfriend was hot like me?
A friend sent me a link to take a quiz titled "What do guys like about you?''
Interesting huh? I thought so, which is why I took the quiz. I like for people to tell me about myself...even if it turns out to be something I already know. In this case, I would like to think I have a clear idea of what guys like about me, but who knows? The one thing I may think makes a guy yearn to be in my presence, may not be it.
So before I took this quiz I tried to come up with a few things that I believe guys like about me. I'm pretty confident so the list of a few turned into a list of many lol! One thing I believe guys like about me that I really appreciate is my personality. I am a cool, down to earth chick. I want the best for everybody and I try to motivate others to be all they can be. I love hard, though not very often. Love is important to me so I choose wisely. Once a guy has my heart, he will know it and feel appreciated by me.
So here are the results of the quiz...
I would like to agree that I am charming. The blessing can turn out to be a curse though, because those that I want to forget me have a hard time doing so. It in turn makes me feel bad and I try to keep the lines of communication open but only briefly. Some folk just can't move on. I know that some of us are guilty of this also...but just speaking in regards to my being charming and all...hahahaha! And the part about the bad hair day is sooooo true! I have met the greatest number of guys over my lifetime thinking I was looking tore down!!! I mean, I have been in sweats with a tank top, hair pulled back, plain as ever...and this is when men approach me the most. Of course, me being the direct person that I am, I have asked guys why this is. Most of them reply saying they like me that way because I seem more natural. It's not like when I get all dolled up to go out for a night on the town...just being regular me. Another guy said he likes it when I look comfortable...I have a glow about myself when I'm comfortable. I like that one. I've also gotten answers like, I seem more approachable when I'm dressed down. Does that mean that the guy is intimidated? If he is, then I don't want him coming my way anyway! How charming of me huh? :-)
Anyway, I think I'll try some more of these quizzes and see what comes of it...
Interesting huh? I thought so, which is why I took the quiz. I like for people to tell me about myself...even if it turns out to be something I already know. In this case, I would like to think I have a clear idea of what guys like about me, but who knows? The one thing I may think makes a guy yearn to be in my presence, may not be it.
So before I took this quiz I tried to come up with a few things that I believe guys like about me. I'm pretty confident so the list of a few turned into a list of many lol! One thing I believe guys like about me that I really appreciate is my personality. I am a cool, down to earth chick. I want the best for everybody and I try to motivate others to be all they can be. I love hard, though not very often. Love is important to me so I choose wisely. Once a guy has my heart, he will know it and feel appreciated by me.
So here are the results of the quiz...
Guys Like That You're Charming |
 You're the girl most guys can't get out of their heads Even if they met you on a bad hair day :-) You just seem to "click" with everyone you meet So even if a guy forgets about you for a second... his friends haven't! |
I would like to agree that I am charming. The blessing can turn out to be a curse though, because those that I want to forget me have a hard time doing so. It in turn makes me feel bad and I try to keep the lines of communication open but only briefly. Some folk just can't move on. I know that some of us are guilty of this also...but just speaking in regards to my being charming and all...hahahaha! And the part about the bad hair day is sooooo true! I have met the greatest number of guys over my lifetime thinking I was looking tore down!!! I mean, I have been in sweats with a tank top, hair pulled back, plain as ever...and this is when men approach me the most. Of course, me being the direct person that I am, I have asked guys why this is. Most of them reply saying they like me that way because I seem more natural. It's not like when I get all dolled up to go out for a night on the town...just being regular me. Another guy said he likes it when I look comfortable...I have a glow about myself when I'm comfortable. I like that one. I've also gotten answers like, I seem more approachable when I'm dressed down. Does that mean that the guy is intimidated? If he is, then I don't want him coming my way anyway! How charming of me huh? :-)
Anyway, I think I'll try some more of these quizzes and see what comes of it...
Monday, February 23, 2009
What Part Will You Play?
I've recently gotten to the point where I am truly able to let things and people go. It's not easy by any means, but sometimes God will let you know that it is time to move on. I am glad too. The difficult process of giving up dead weight in your life, only makes the journey easier without the extra baggage. I remember reading an email from a friend stating that people will be put in your life for a reason, a season, and a lifetime.
People enter your life for a reason because there is a lesson to be learned or a trial to be overcome. That particular person may help with something you are having difficulty with and keep you encouraged through it all. Then without warning or wrongdoing on your part, that person may leave you. I think about people that I know that have been in my life for a reason but are not here anymore. It hurts. Especially when you have to let someone go that has had such an impact on your life. I learned from my experiences with those people, and it has made me stronger. It is important to realize though, that whatever happened, the lesson has been learned and it was time for them to be released from your life. It is time to move on!
People entering your life for just a season usually bring a tremendous amount of joy. They are there to share great memories with you. There may be much laughter and experiencing things you have never done before. But like the seasons change, so will your relationship with that person. And we all know that seasons end, as does this relationship. I have someone that was placed in my life for a season. He brought me so much joy and peace. Then one day, it dawned on me that it was time for me to let him go. Letting go of someone who has been in your life for a season is sooooo hard. You get accustomed to that person, and cannot imagine life without them. But God always has a plan and he will let us know that life does indeed go on.
Last but not least, lifetime relationships present lifelong lessons. This may be a case where someone has hurt you badly. You must learn from that experience and forgive that person. When you don't forgive, a person will take power over you. Let it go. Pick up and move on and know better when you are in other relationships throughout life. That is a part of growing. Learning not only from your mistakes, but other peoples' as well. I have learned a great deal from previous relationships and I strive to make every one better than the last.
This is my spill for this Monday. I was thinking about all the people in my life that I have been blessed to know...even my enemies. I am thankful for my experiences. They make me the fabulous woman that I am... :-)
People enter your life for a reason because there is a lesson to be learned or a trial to be overcome. That particular person may help with something you are having difficulty with and keep you encouraged through it all. Then without warning or wrongdoing on your part, that person may leave you. I think about people that I know that have been in my life for a reason but are not here anymore. It hurts. Especially when you have to let someone go that has had such an impact on your life. I learned from my experiences with those people, and it has made me stronger. It is important to realize though, that whatever happened, the lesson has been learned and it was time for them to be released from your life. It is time to move on!
People entering your life for just a season usually bring a tremendous amount of joy. They are there to share great memories with you. There may be much laughter and experiencing things you have never done before. But like the seasons change, so will your relationship with that person. And we all know that seasons end, as does this relationship. I have someone that was placed in my life for a season. He brought me so much joy and peace. Then one day, it dawned on me that it was time for me to let him go. Letting go of someone who has been in your life for a season is sooooo hard. You get accustomed to that person, and cannot imagine life without them. But God always has a plan and he will let us know that life does indeed go on.
Last but not least, lifetime relationships present lifelong lessons. This may be a case where someone has hurt you badly. You must learn from that experience and forgive that person. When you don't forgive, a person will take power over you. Let it go. Pick up and move on and know better when you are in other relationships throughout life. That is a part of growing. Learning not only from your mistakes, but other peoples' as well. I have learned a great deal from previous relationships and I strive to make every one better than the last.
This is my spill for this Monday. I was thinking about all the people in my life that I have been blessed to know...even my enemies. I am thankful for my experiences. They make me the fabulous woman that I am... :-)
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