What a WeEkEnD!!!

Ok I had the best time this weekend at a BBQ my friend J had! There was plenty of food and drinks, which is right down my alley!! (I sound so much like my momma with that)

There were a lot of people there, which I enjoyed because I am a talker and a people person. I talked to everybody! That's just what I do...We even persuaded the men to play Taboo, which is my favorite game! Now, that was super hilarious! I told them at the beginning that they would lose, but they didn't believe me. And guess what happened? They lost EVERY game!!! hahahahahaha! It got to be a little heated because all of us were very competitive. I hate to lose, so you know I wasn't about to give up my Taboo crown to a bunch of clueless men! They had to go down...and they did!

After we whooped their a** in Taboo, we started to have deep conversations, which I dreaded because I knew that we (as in us women) would get upset with the simple mindedness of the men. One of the guys asks for my opinion about his current relationship situation. He was wondering why girls go through the phones of their boyfriends...mainly because his girlfriend was doing the same to him. So, he then goes on to say that he likes pics of naked women, and that is what she found. His rationale was that she shouldn't be going through his phone because he bought her a truck and he pays her cell phone bill. See the simple minds??? I'm looking at him like he's crazy by now, because he's out of his mind if he thinks that is gonna fly with a woman and also because he is obviously a freakin pervert! It's not enough that he has a woman at his beck and call (because she is) he wants more...he wants to look at pics of naked women. WTF?? He then says, "It's the same as if you were to send me a pic and I keep it...I keep my pics." I ask him why he even gets to the point where he lets other women send him those type of pics if he is so into his girlfriend? We were all getting mad at this point, so we calm down on this topic. How stupid and selfish of him, huh?

All I have to say is, sometimes it saddens me how clueless men are about a woman's feelings. Some of them have no idea what it takes to keep a woman, and sadly, they don't care as long as their needs are fulfilled. They don't think that they won't prosper in life when negatively handling matters of the heart. Bless their little hearts...It can only end in tragedy...

Speaking of tragedy, that's what it would have been if I continued to talk to that loser of a man that I mentioned briefly in my last post...TRAGEDY! Thank you Lord that I use the sense you gave me, and will tell it like it is, instead of remaining in a bad situation. Please understand, when I say this guy is a loser, I am not exaggerating, I'm actually sugar coating it lol!

ReAdInG iS fUnDaMeNtAl

You know us women like to read books about relationships. Two of my girls and I are reading Steve Harvey's new book together..."Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man". One of my girls came up with the idea to read then discuss. I've only read about 3 pages because I have been so busy...which is bad because one of my girls is almost finished! I'll get with it soon I hope.

Like I said, haven't read that many pages, so I really don't know if I will like the book or not. A friend of mine that read it said it was a little slow and drawn out like Steve Harvey is on his morning show, which falls in line with some reviews I've been reading. Others have loved the book, saying it provided real world advice for women. I hope that it turns out to be a good read, I'm pretty sure it will.

One thing I will be looking for in this book is validation to things I've already known for some time. In reality, once you've been through certain situations you kinda know how to handle certain people...in this case men. I've had some crazy situations with guys over the years...as I get older, it's less crazy because I have learned from my mistakes, as well as the mistakes of others when it comes to relationships. I'm actually pretty proud of myself in that area. There is always room for improvement, but I'm not necessarily looking to improve from reading this book. I believe that the greatest experience is getting together as friends and discussing our thoughts on points from the book. I am thankful that my friends have been in situations and have learned from them...it's just plain sorry to not show any growth over the years. How are you going to make it through life going thru the same crap all the time. There are actually people out there who are okay with this! Losers!

Now back to the book, I would have to say that while it is important to talk to women about relationships issues...I've gotten the greatest success talking to other men. My guy friends that I have are invaluable to me. These are not the guys I date. They are who I learn from. I talk to them about relationships...mines and theirs. There is one friend I've had for a long time that's like a brother to me. I know him like the back of my hand, and vice versa. We have those talks. And I guarantee you, there is info presented that cannot be learned in any book, talk show, online site etc. Besides that, the best way to learn is from experience. That is my thought. Anyway, I'm looking forward to reading the book and sharing my thoughts along the way. Maybe you should read it too! Let me know what you think...

Don't you wish your girlfriend was hot like me?

A friend sent me a link to take a quiz titled "What do guys like about you?''

Interesting huh? I thought so, which is why I took the quiz. I like for people to tell me about myself...even if it turns out to be something I already know. In this case, I would like to think I have a clear idea of what guys like about me, but who knows? The one thing I may think makes a guy yearn to be in my presence, may not be it.

So before I took this quiz I tried to come up with a few things that I believe guys like about me. I'm pretty confident so the list of a few turned into a list of many lol! One thing I believe guys like about me that I really appreciate is my personality. I am a cool, down to earth chick. I want the best for everybody and I try to motivate others to be all they can be. I love hard, though not very often. Love is important to me so I choose wisely. Once a guy has my heart, he will know it and feel appreciated by me.

So here are the results of the quiz...

Guys Like That You're Charming

You're the girl most guys can't get out of their heads Even if they met you on a bad hair day :-) You just seem to "click" with everyone you meet So even if a guy forgets about you for a second... his friends haven't!

What Do Guys Like About You?

I would like to agree that I am charming. The blessing can turn out to be a curse though, because those that I want to forget me have a hard time doing so. It in turn makes me feel bad and I try to keep the lines of communication open but only briefly. Some folk just can't move on. I know that some of us are guilty of this also...but just speaking in regards to my being charming and all...hahahaha! And the part about the bad hair day is sooooo true! I have met the greatest number of guys over my lifetime thinking I was looking tore down!!! I mean, I have been in sweats with a tank top, hair pulled back, plain as ever...and this is when men approach me the most. Of course, me being the direct person that I am, I have asked guys why this is. Most of them reply saying they like me that way because I seem more natural. It's not like when I get all dolled up to go out for a night on the town...just being regular me. Another guy said he likes it when I look comfortable...I have a glow about myself when I'm comfortable. I like that one. I've also gotten answers like, I seem more approachable when I'm dressed down. Does that mean that the guy is intimidated? If he is, then I don't want him coming my way anyway! How charming of me huh? :-)

Anyway, I think I'll try some more of these quizzes and see what comes of it...

Are you talkin to me????

It amazes me how some people communicate...especially when they don't know how. Since we were kids, we have been taught the correct way to say things to people. At least most of us were. It's not really that hard. At least not for me. A big part of my job is effective communication, so I pride myself on knowing what to say, and when to say it. Why this rant on communication? Well I'll tell you.

I finished up a lunch with some clients today and there was this man in the building standing near us. I peeped him when I was talking to some other folk and I already knew what was coming because of the way he was looking at me. During my conversation, he interrupted to ask me if I had any pens to give away. I politely said no. He stood there staring and I kept on talking trying finish the point I was making. We started in on Mardi Gras festivities, and I asked them if they were going to Mardi Gras...this dude interrupted again, this time wanting to know if I was going to Mardi Gras like if I was going, then we could go together or something. I told him no, politely still. He stood there staring, still! I was watching him out of the corner of my eye because I knew that once I was on my way out to my car, he was going to try to walk with me. I didn't want that. I hate for random dudes to walk me to my car. I guess it's a city thing. One can never be too careful! Anyway, when I'm on my way out of the building he is doing the same. Of course! And this is what he says..."Hey baaaaaaaabbbbbyyyy, you got any kids??" It kinda startled me cause he was so much quieter inside. "Nope, no kids" I said while walking away. "You married baaaaaabby?" He asked. "Almost there!" I replied never looking back. He proceeded to say congrats while watching me walk away and mumbling...Hmm Hmm Hmm! Just so you know, "almost there" does not mean I'm getting married soon, or even have a prospect. Almost there could mean yeah I'm single, but I'll be getting married next lol! So in a sense it was not a lie. This man had to be about 30 years older than me! Why would I be interested?

I find it sad that men approach women in the most awful ways. No, I'm not talking about all men...just some. What would have been wrong with asking me my name? What about how are you doing? This is basic...no big words necessary. No, I'm not upset about this particular man, but in general this is how it goes. For every 2 men that approach me politely, there are about 20 men that just can't get right! Some guys will even get mad if you don't wanna give them the time of day. What makes them think that just because they are interested, we should be interested? How crazy is that? My boss used to say the definition of insanity is doing the same thing you've always done, expecting to get different results. Get a clue dudes! If you ain't getting play from females with your whack lines, try something different. Hopefully something better! Nothing is guaranteed, but at least a 'what is your name' or 'how are you' will get something other than a roll of the eyes. At least from the classy females. I can't speak for the chickenheads. LOL!