Friday, February 20, 2009

Are you talkin to me????

It amazes me how some people communicate...especially when they don't know how. Since we were kids, we have been taught the correct way to say things to people. At least most of us were. It's not really that hard. At least not for me. A big part of my job is effective communication, so I pride myself on knowing what to say, and when to say it. Why this rant on communication? Well I'll tell you.

I finished up a lunch with some clients today and there was this man in the building standing near us. I peeped him when I was talking to some other folk and I already knew what was coming because of the way he was looking at me. During my conversation, he interrupted to ask me if I had any pens to give away. I politely said no. He stood there staring and I kept on talking trying finish the point I was making. We started in on Mardi Gras festivities, and I asked them if they were going to Mardi Gras...this dude interrupted again, this time wanting to know if I was going to Mardi Gras like if I was going, then we could go together or something. I told him no, politely still. He stood there staring, still! I was watching him out of the corner of my eye because I knew that once I was on my way out to my car, he was going to try to walk with me. I didn't want that. I hate for random dudes to walk me to my car. I guess it's a city thing. One can never be too careful! Anyway, when I'm on my way out of the building he is doing the same. Of course! And this is what he says..."Hey baaaaaaaabbbbbyyyy, you got any kids??" It kinda startled me cause he was so much quieter inside. "Nope, no kids" I said while walking away. "You married baaaaaabby?" He asked. "Almost there!" I replied never looking back. He proceeded to say congrats while watching me walk away and mumbling...Hmm Hmm Hmm! Just so you know, "almost there" does not mean I'm getting married soon, or even have a prospect. Almost there could mean yeah I'm single, but I'll be getting married next lol! So in a sense it was not a lie. This man had to be about 30 years older than me! Why would I be interested?

I find it sad that men approach women in the most awful ways. No, I'm not talking about all men...just some. What would have been wrong with asking me my name? What about how are you doing? This is basic...no big words necessary. No, I'm not upset about this particular man, but in general this is how it goes. For every 2 men that approach me politely, there are about 20 men that just can't get right! Some guys will even get mad if you don't wanna give them the time of day. What makes them think that just because they are interested, we should be interested? How crazy is that? My boss used to say the definition of insanity is doing the same thing you've always done, expecting to get different results. Get a clue dudes! If you ain't getting play from females with your whack lines, try something different. Hopefully something better! Nothing is guaranteed, but at least a 'what is your name' or 'how are you' will get something other than a roll of the eyes. At least from the classy females. I can't speak for the chickenheads. LOL!

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